Ok, this is no easy topic to talk about since I'm not with you and cannot talk about your specific reason for anxiety, see there are as many reasons for anxiety as there are people so we can probably break it down to several categories
1st there's the anxiety that is normal to have such as before a fight, arguments or trying out something dangerous this anxiety is OK to have because if you didn't feel anxious/fear you wouldn't feel pain and you'd do yourself all kinds of damage.
2nd, is the anxiety that you get because you lead a stressful life, so you don' get much chance to rest, and even when your sleeping you might be a snorer and not get enough oxygen so you feel tired the next day and most likely have bad dreams because you've had a 'rough' day.
3rd is the one that can be called FEAR as well, this anxiety is the one that is constantly there, sometimes you forget the original reason why the anxiety started but you feel like you're going to feel this way forever, you have loss of concentration because you are CONSTANTLY focusing on your worry or worries, this is the type of anxiety that can go on for months to years and life is no longer a life, you may look in the mirror and not fully recongise the person in front of you (depersonalisation) you may feel drowziness, sweat (especially when you're alone with just you and your brain), panic attacks, a feeling of foreboding.
There are good news for ayone in the 2nd or 3rd category because that's what this blog will assist you in ridding and take you back to the normal 1st category (how you were before the disorder)
You get good at what you practice.
After all the self-help books and therapy sessions the best form of ridding anxiety and ultimately running your own brain is neuro linguistic programming or NLP.
Do a search of NLP and there is a little bit of free information about it, however here I'll tell you enough to set you free.
In NLP there is the premise that the nervous system (so our feelings) can't tell the difference between a real event and a vividly imagined situation. So if you tell yourself to not feel sad it won't work, 1st because you used the word 'sad' in the statement and your brain does not respond to negatives, it's like me saying don't think of a pink elephant...(did it work?)
and 2nd because your are not using that part of your brain responsible for being the way you are (whether your happy, sad, scared, feeling lonely, feeling horny etc.) and wait for it here it comes... THE IMAGINATION, that's right when you say that somebody made you feel bad, happy, scared or turned on it wasn't them it was you!
Syllogism: noun An inference in which one proposition (the conclusion) follows necessarily from two other propositions, known as the premises.
- My mind controls my feelings
- I control my mind
- Therefore I control my feelings
But how do you control your feelings when you feel like YOU ARE OUT OF CONTROL.
Is it easy? well yes and no, it's easy if you do it right and no it's not easy if you don't have a neuro linguistic programming therapist next to you, however it is far from impossible.
Nugget of wisdom:
People who try to be happy are the ones that are the least happy because they worry over smaller things then those who aren't trying.
In the next post I will describe how to use NLP so that you can make your fear/phobia dissapear.
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